Let it flow because you know when to go

Monday is the beginning of a fresh flow for many, including women commanding, demanding, and decreeing changes. Nobody wants to live with domestic violence, period.

Fresh and new doesn't just come from fruit and veggies (though produce is a great start). Think a new mindset and telling yourself positive thoughts which will strengthen you through tough situations.

Abusive circumstances are packed with constant obstacles you feel you cannot move past whether a survivor, someone helping another, a neighbor offering solutions, or a professional in the midst of empowering a soon-to-be survivor.

You know your goals, wants, desires, but negative influences have hammered you from the onset  with you can't do this and your not that, followed by judgments and criticism from various avenues.

Regardless of all the harmful speech others may impact you with (and they will), it's important to know who you are and what you believe. What do you say about yourself (worthy, confident, beautiful, hopeful, filled with faith because you know Jesus is the answer, you push through and realize you have a big future ahead of you)? How about the person trying to help, what do they do (pray, inspire, encourage, help with resources, make phone calls, offer empathy, help friend to focus, laugh, be honest, change what the survivor can change, etc.)?

Speaking up for yourself can be grueling (especially when you've been pushed back in your shell copious times) and you feel like your getting your lights punched out again for speaking your peace, voicing your opinions and feelings.

Well, let it flow because you have options from free speech to law enforcement.

The law is here to protect you and they do an excellent job. I hope that if you are in a situation which is difficult to escape, you will consider taking action and call the police. Most women don't call the police because they are scared, I used to be one of those women until I grew a bit bolder.

Certainly nobody likes to have red and blue flashing lights in front of their home attracting negative and embarrassing attention, however, this can and does save lives.

 Law enforcement confronts ugly situations which we all know. That's why it's so important for women (and guys too) affected by domestic violence to call the police when applicable (not when the alleged perpetrator already has a gun or other weapon ready for use, but when he or she does go over boundaries that are harmful and disrespectful to you).

The law will surely let it flow and as long as you are cooperative, he can guide you to a safe place, provide numbers, connections, and appropriate guidance to empower you for the women (or guy) you were meant to be.

Remember, safety is your number one priority when leaving an abusive relationship (the most crucial time). I cannot expressive this enough, and you won't always have time to pack a bag as if going on vacation. When you make your mind, mountains will move like thunder roars in a storm.

 As are a survivor or person helping another to flee from domestic violence, don't think the alleged perpetrator isn't going to try to locate you, he (or she) will use whatever tactic it takes, but, in the end, often they find themselves reporting to jail, a counselor,  a probation officer, or other means to gain their attention and change their ways.

Push forward and know you will make it through this hairy time because you are not only strong, you have a number of support outlets. Learn more and knowledgeable, listen to your intuition and take action when you are ready to make choices. The supernatural will flow with you if you allow it to.

Women Empowerment Solutions is dedicated to making a difference in the lives of women who have a history of domestic violence.

We leave you with this scripture "Guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long." (Psalm 25:5).