Discovering "self" after domestic violence

Discovering more of “self” after domestic violence.

Who are you? How worthy do you feel?

Did you know that you are talented and these gifts nobody can take from you?

 The perpetrator has been telling you, no, no, no all this time. No, no, no is not true.

 Your talents that had been plummeted for quite some time will resurface and are doing so now. You will polish them off and be amazed at how much you’ve “tucked” away.

Once you feel free (and actually, always been “free” except for any “strongholds” incurred by the perpetrator), the doors are w  I  d  e open and up to you, the survivor to visualize what is to come.

The pique of “trust” may start to beacon again after you’ve healed a bit from the devil’s burn (because that is what it is).

Self- worth was shot (keyword: was), that takes time to rebuild with counseling, support, good-good friends who encourage-it’s like a kitty coming out for the first time.

As time goes (somewhere) and healing take place, when you look in the mirror, self-worth starts to look and feel more like  shiny gold from the "Gold Rush" California days (I wasn’t born then, but, I have heard and read about it…pretty amazing).

There are people, places,  and sounds that may remind you of the abuse from the past that washes away  "sometimes” years later and sometimes it never goes away. You’re not a freak for pausing with caution when you see or hear static-type messes from your past in the present, your discernment radar is working full throttle…my radar works like that too.

I once worked with someone that “reminded” me of the perpetrator. The individual was nice, then, struck like a wild animal in a second.

It took me a short time to figure out what was happening. When I recognized the character of the  person, I wasn’t able to perform my personal best for my job duties- I was stifled, the bully was there….again. Oh goodness.

When you bump into this situation (and you probably will, there’s plenty to go around), oh it is hard because your thinking is “fogged” so-to-speak. The snarky remarks-your like, what did I do to deserve this (nothing)? That person is just mean (has no understanding).

Keep your boundaries in check and stay professional or apply for another job. The thing is, you can’t stray from job to job, there’s always going to be someone that “urks” you….probably not as bad as the perpetrator though (thank God! Establish stability…and I’m sure you have already done so…these are discovery points to help you (or anyone you know).

It is important to remember your boundaries; drawing a line where “your” borders are with whomever. This is whether you are at work, school, friendship, and relationships. Boundaries are essential and so important- you will definitely- discover more of who you are with boundaries and it will improve your self- esteem and confidence majorly.

What is acceptable to you? What’s not acceptable to you?

Some people won’t like your boundaries, but they are yours and other people should to respect and honor them.

Remember, you have input and you matter. #choices#decisions#boundaries#discovery#womenempowermentsolutions#freedomfromdomesticviolence