Five or more relating to your children

Empowering women through children, that's our focus for today.

We all want the best for our children, so when leaving a domestic abuse situation here are some areas

 to consider.

First, your child is primary (you know this already, I am sure).

You do go through parenting classes as well as if you didn't know how to parent your child correct,

right?

There are areas which are rough patches when joint custody is involved.

Mostly, all are playing dirty; both sides- it's the ugly truth, and I know nobody wants to hear that, but

I've seen copious times.

The perpetrator wants his way, and you feel he is totally manipulative-which in most cases, this is

100 percent true.

On the flip side, I've seen and heard women talk that aren't too nice either. However, after going

through all the domestic violence and the mind games, you wonder, what is next and how to get past

certain areas without damaging your child with long term effects (could be a tough one).

Things to consider and be mindful about, putting action behind these positive thoughts and words:

Even though the perpetrator has hurt you (been there, done that) and often- times the former

boyfriend or spouse target a child or the children, that totally stings; both you and your kiddos. First,

have your child or children in counseling-very helpful. I'd also highly recommend keeping a records

log. This will include date, time, description, location, if an officer or others that may have been

involved, whatever pertinent information you can provide, write it down because you will not

remember it later.

Additionally, keep your little ones in church- every time you have the opportunity to attend church,

bible study, activities at church, this is powerful and a game changer for your child's future. If you do

not have a church, consider finding one that fits best for you. A church that speaks about the

kingdom of heaven is an A+.

When searching for a church, research it like you would his or her educational needs- you can also

have a mentor help you with this. You may have asked in the past about schools, ask about churches.

Be sure to look out for red flags with words spoken, behaviors that you don't think are quite right,

pictures your child may draw. What about the children your children are attracted to play with

(meaning the law of attraction here; not gender-based at all)? Example: Most divorced children (not

all, but many) may hang around children whose parents are divorced as well instead of a child whose

parents have never been divorced. This may not be an issue at all, but it's a good idea to pay attention

to whom your child surrounds himself with.

It's right to provide a peaceful and calm environment for the child (or children) as you well know.

Chaos doesn't do anyone any favors and usually promotes diagnosis of ADD or ADHD and other

areas of concern.

Speaking special future over your children is helpful, and encouraging. Rather excellent to stay on

this path.

In most cases, children love both of their parents and should never have to choose between one or the

 other, but often- times intimation, manipulation, fear, jealousy, and other ungodly contributors get in

the way. It's the parent's job to teach their children respect, honor, and good character traits (among

other things) from the onset-hence, responsible adults.

It's good you have a basis for a solid foundation for your children, and you know how important it is

to speak truths, not allowing domestic violence to saturate their minds. The younger they are

submitted to such horrific surrounding makes for a costly outcome in their adult years.  Making

decisions for you and your children, powerful.

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