Monday, June 11, 2018
Express lines and mail fill the people until their almost pale.
One-line shopping, anyone can buy dresses, tires, salad with kale.
"I want it NOW" says one buyer. Does this sound like everyday lifestyles for many who are rushed, don't really know how to budget their time, or set proper boundaries? Maybe, it's simply easy access to products and services without having to wait. What about domestic violence intervention? Bet you can get a whopper of a deal somewhere in the fifty United States, including Women Empowerment Solutions.
Nearly twenty women per minute are physically abused (wwwncadv.org) by the perpetrator husband or boyfriend. A remedy is right before your beautiful eyes. 1-8 hundred-799-SAFE (7233) is the national hotline- a number that is plastered on billboards everywhere. You can also call 918-407-7106 for prayer, encouragement here at W.E.S. These are lines of communication to start you new life, no more battered wife having to deal with continuous strife.
From the north you'll find help. From the south, you find more resilience from domestic violence. Look to the east and west and find God's continued express love which is everywhere you, anywhere you call....even online.
Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength, an ever -present help in trouble (NIV, www.biblegateway.com).
In Jesus name we "loose you from any kind of abuse." Amen.
Thursday, June 7, 2018
Rules without measure
The rules are far and wide and the perpetrator must follow them. They are without measure, intact, enforced, omnipresent, empowering and liberating.
The tools for freedom are endless. You may go forth and do the impossible because we serve the God of the universe who makes miracles out of our messes. Domestic violence must bow to the name of Jesus.
He will help you and hold you up with his righteous right hand no matter what you see in the "natural."
The perpetrator may think he has one on you, he actually has zero on you and will not get ahead with wreaked-havoc plans.
Your days are without measure, lovely, full of God's benefits (and there are too many to list here), joyful, hopeful, filled with restoration and wholeness blessed from the Lord's holy santuary.
Be blessed and know that you are beautiful and loved without measure. Also, remember:
Psalm 37:23 NLT states "The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives."
Empowering women from domestic violence.
Monday, May 28, 2018
Memorial Day is not the happiest day. While you can still eat good food, play outdoor activities, relax, and celebrate- it's totally honoring the United States men and women who have served in the armed forces and died for our countries freedom. Thank you to all who have served our country and who are currently serving America.
On a more personal note, Memorial Day is a momentous day for me as well.
A synopsis of that particular weekend goes like this: Torrential rain beat down on the house many moons ago. "Trying" to make the "transition" in a downpour and gale-type hurricane winds for a new life is not always the best choice (but sometimes it happens- especially in domestic violence cases).
Talk about the hardest part of leaving a domestic violence situation-#obstaclesgalore. All of the emotion bottled up with a cap on so tightly (think-soda, don't explode) or cramming items into your purse and trying to close it and you can't- Ohhhh boyyy.
I was on "alert" (watch like a soldier) all night. If he came around me, I was shewing him away with a Chinese language that I didn't know (nor did the Chinese). I didn't want him any where near me and luckily he was had toned down quite a bit and perplexed, "what is this chic saying?"
Finally, after expending so much energy during the night, I fell asleep, waking up alone in the room: A new day, the sun was shining again- hallelujah.
That was the beginning of the "first" real separation.
It's been close to twenty years for me- I am a survivor, advocate, and ambassador. #lovelife#makegooddecisions#empowermentfromdomesticviolence
It takes time and a lot of healing and restoration and, most of all, forgiveness to move beyond wicked abusive actions.
It's not impossible to move forward, but, once you start, it's similar to eating cake. Once you take a bite, you want more and more, and then you have a full stomach (metaphorically, you have your freedom, a job to pay your bills & more, you have mostly everything you want, hence, full stomach).
It takes diligence (continued effort) and perseverance (concentration, focus) to get what and where you want without exception.
Colossians 1:11-12 (biblegateway.com) reminds us, "be strengthened with all power according to his glorious might so that you may have great endurance and patience, and giving joyful thanks to the Father, who has qualified you to share in the inheritance of his holy people in the kingdom of light.
Be aware that you, or someone you know, have what it takes to move forward-whatever that looks like for you (self-esteem, confidence, job, place to live, etc.). Sometimes, it is not always an easy task for men or women to leave their abusers simply because they love that person (but, abuse is not love, on contrar, it's opposite)- Women Empowerment Solutions honors those who did not make it through an abusive situation.
We encourage and empower women that are making changes and moving away from domestic violence, a life free from abuse.
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Freedom from Domestic Violence
Thursday, May 3, 2018
What are some ways for you to be "self-assured"you will be alright? No more anxiety, that is not your name or game or fame and it's not your shame. Keep the money and time which belongs to you.
Wrap yourself in "burrito security." What are some things that make you feel safe? Can't be someone that beats you up or calls you names...that's not security. Some place where there is love, unconditional love. You can spend time in the Father's heart, He is full of love. The Father, meaning, Jesus Christ. He will "help you and uphold you with his righteous right hand" (to paraphrase), it says so in His Word (Isaiah 41:10 www.biblegateway.com).
Next, who do you trust or not trust? After you've dealt with domestic violence for a bit, you wonder, who can you honestly trust? Give Jesus a try, He will surprise you...it's His benefits package, full of glory.
Friends vs. Isolation....choose friends, that's the best. I'm sure you already know the answers, but, in case you didn't, W.E.S. (Women Empowerment Solutions) is here to help.
Choose hope, choose faith, choose Jesus, that will change everything about your situation quickly. You'll save time, money, and mow the mountains...probably prosper into another economic situation too.
Saturday, April 21, 2018
The simple truth, nobody deserves to be abused, no, not one person.
Everyone has choices to make- do you want fries or tater tots, ice cream or yogurt, save money or spend it, beat someone (drastic) or not, scream and yell (what...you can't hear me?!) or be calm and address a situation (peace), the choice is up to the individual.
Abusers alone are responsible for the abusive acts, nobody else. Women who are beaten by use of force or name calling or other forms- know, that it's not your fault. The abuser chose his acts and you shouldn't carry the weight of his brutal force.
"Shame is one of those fiery darts that attacks your identity. Guilt says, I've done some bad where as shame says, I am bad." (June Hunt, Biblical Counselor).
Shame vs. Guilt, which one are you? Hopefully, you said "neither one!"
Psalm 25:3 says "no one whose hope is in you [God] will ever be put to shame but they will be put to shame who are treacherous without excuse."
They speaks volumes and I hope this lifts your spirit today knowing that you are not identified by shame or guilt- that is NOT your name. Scripture says it best, put your hope in God- He will never make you feel shameful- He loves you so much!
Isaiah 58:11 "The Lord will guide you always, he will satisfy your needs in a sun-scorched land and will strengthen your frame. You will be like a well-watered garden, like a spring whose water never fail."
Believe in the Lord with all your heart and taken action. With the fabulous decisions you are making now and each day forward, you are about to see some exciting changes. I am excited for you!
Dig deep within your heart and find brooks of living waters- they will gush from your inner self. It's amazing when you find this glory, everything changes.
I hope you are empowered today and know, it does get better from here forward. It does not happen overnight, but over time. Be safe and know that you are worthy of all good things- look for the rainbow.
Friday, April 6, 2018
Here is a look at legislation for empowering women from domestic violence. We start with a defining look and help you, the readers, gain a better understanding of legislation, if you are not already aware. After all, we aren’t born knowing this information.
First, according to www.lawgovpol.com, Legislation is a law that has been made and enacted by a legislature, such as a parliament. A single piece of legislation is also known as an act of parliament or a statute, while legislation is broadly known as statutory law. Formulating new legislation and reviewing and amending existing legislation is the main business of Federal, State and Territory parliaments.
How A Bill Becomes A Law
- A bill is introduced in either the House of Representatives or the Senate
- The bill is assigned a number, labeled with the sponsor’s/sponsors’, and sent to the Government Printing Office
- The bill is referred to the appropriate committees. Bills can be sent to more than one committee. The committee chair then assigns the bill to a subcommittee. If a committee refuses to consider a bill, it is effectively dead. The subcommittee reports back to the main committee. The main committee can amend the bill.
- The committee reports the bill back to the House/Senate with comments, including whether the committee supports or opposes the bill.
- The bill is placed on the calendar.
- Legislators have the opportunity to debate the bill. Legislators can add amendments. In the House, a limited amount of time is allotted to debate. In the Senate, debate is unlimited. This can sometimes lead to a filibuster; Senators will continue talking and debating until a) the bill is dropped, because the Senators plan to keep talking until the end of the legislative session or b) cloture is invoked. 60 Senators must vote in favor of ending debate in order to invoke cloture.
- The House/Senate votes on the bill.
- The chamber that passed the bill sends it to the other chamber for consideration.
- If the other chamber defeats the bill, it is dead. If both the House and Senate pass the same bill, it goes to the president for his/her signature. If the other chamber passes an amended bill, the bill goes to a conference committee to create a compromise bill, called a conference report. Each chamber then has to approve the conference report.
- The president either signs the bill or vetoes it. If the president does not sign the bill within ten days, it de-facto becomes law. If the president vetoes it, it does not become law unless the congress overrides the veto; ⅔ of legislators in each chamber must vote to override the veto to block the bill from becoming law (www.ncadv.org).
Now a look through the years to present time…in a blog.
In 1994 (yeah, 24 years ago!), we have The Violence Against Women Act (VAWA). So, what is VAWA? Here are some answers for that: VAWA was passed not only to stem the tide of ever-increasing violence against women but also to encourage societal change. It has been reauthorized three times, chugging away at the bit- meaning, working a expanding for the good, even combating sex trafficking and some tribal courts jurisdiction over non-Native perpetrators who committed violence against women on tribal lands, authorized money to address the rape-kit processing backlog, established a nondiscrimination requirement for programs receiving VAWA grant money, and created a ‘rape shield’ law (www.ncadv.org).
This was established in the 1994 era. What else is there you may wonder?
The Family Violence Prevention and Services Act (FVPSA)
The Victims of Crime Act (VOCA
In 1984, Congress passed, and President Reagan signed into law, the Victims of Crime Act (VOCA). VOCA established the Crime Victims Fund to assist and compensate victims/survivors of crime.
Marsy’s Law for Oklahoma SQ 794 will give crime victims equal constitutional standing during criminal investigations, in court, and during the pardon and parole process and to make sure if you are a crime victim and you do not receive equal treatment, that you have recourse with the courts (https://marsyslaw.us/marsys-law-state-efforts/oklahoma/).
Reported to House with amendment(s) (12/05/2017)
Fix NICS Act of 2017
(Sec. 2) This bill amends the Brady Handgun Violence Prevention Act to require each federal agency and department, including a federal court, to:
- certify whether it has provided to the National Instant Criminal Background Check System (NICS) disqualifying records of persons prohibited from receiving or possessing a firearm, and
- establish and substantially comply with an implementation plan to maximize record submissions and verify their accuracy.
(Sec. 3) The bill amends the NICS Improvement Amendments Act of 2007 to modify the NICS Act Record Improvement Program (NARIP). Specifically, it:
- establishes a domestic abuse and violence prevention initiative as a priority area for NARIP grant funding, and
- creates a funding preference for states that establish an implementation plan and use grant funds to upload felony conviction and domestic violence records.
(Sec. 4) It amends the Crime Identification Technology Act of 1998 to modify the National Criminal History Improvement Program (NCHIP). Specifically, it:
- specifies that facilitating full participation in the NICS, as an allowable use of NCHIP grant funds, includes increasing efforts to pre-validate felony conviction and domestic violence records to expedite eligibility determinations; and
- permits the federal share of a grant to exceed 90% of program costs if a state complies with its implementation plan.
(Sec. 5) This section amends the NICS Improvement Amendments Act of 2007 to:
- direct the Department of Justice (DOJ), in coordination with each state or tribal government, to establish an implementation plan, including benchmarks, to maximize the automation and submission of mental health and criminal history records to the NICS;
- require DOJ to conduct, and publish the results of, compliance determinations for state and tribal governments;
- give preference to certain discretionary grant applicants that substantially comply with an implementation plan; and
- require the NICS to notify law enforcement agencies when a firearm is transferred to a person who is subsequently determined to be prohibited from receiving or possessing a firearm.
(Sec. 6) DOJ's Bureau of Justice Assistance must report to Congress on the use of bump stocks in the commission of crimes, including the number of instances and the types of firearms.
(Sec. 7) The bill authorizes appropriations for FY2018-FY2022 to carry out activities under this bill (https://www.congress.gov/bill/115th-congress/house-bill/4477).
Work is definitely getting accomplished, however, more work is yet to be done. Be empowered to know of all of the changes, resources, and support throughout the United States.
Women Empowerment Solutions
Thursday, March 29, 2018
It takes a desire for improvement and it takes a desire for safety. A desire greater than the control and fear produced by another person. If you are going to make a change, there must be something that sparks you for something different.
So, what do you say? Are you ready for a change? If you must, write the changes you would like to implement, and make those necessary changes. Only you can make the life changing decisions for yourself.