Wednesday, July 25, 2018

Right beliefs which yield empowering results

Today we are addressing and discussing low self-worth in women. How do these women which could be your sister, cousin, friend, neighbor, co-worker, aunt, daughter, or someone you care deeply about move forward after years or even a short time of domestic abuse?

Women don't want to feel like they are a piece of dirt and they are not. They should not be made to feel such a way either.

What's the secret in making a difference in her life for her to feel worthy? She shouldn't feel bad about her communication to others in word or action or the attire she wear.

Whatever the contributing factors to her low estimation of worth, they are held in place by wrong beliefs that these women have embraced for quite some time. But the low opinions of herself can be overcome by replacing those wrong beliefs with right beliefs.

Wrong beliefs: Comparing yourself to others and the concern of how others view you.

Right beliefs: Declare your self-worth is not based on how you see yourself or how others see you, but how God sees you. For you were created by Him and His image. Jesus already paid the price for (sins) on earth by dying on the cross over 2000 years ago and He lives in each person to fulfill His plan and purpose for each and everyone.

His word says "We are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do." (Ephesians 2:10)

His word also says in Romans 12:2 "Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will."

Be empowered from domestic violence knowing right beliefs and God loves you. Women Empowerment Solutions work to bring empower you through the Word of God and action. It takes faith and action to move a mountain. I encourage you to have faith in God and take action for a better future. Amen.

Trust in God and He will super sonic you or someone you know to the next level of empowerment. God bless you.

Thursday, July 12, 2018

Remote control your noisy world

Say good-bye to domestic violence and be assured, you live in a world filled with hope, though it may not look or sounds like it.

The globe is packed with "do this" and "do that", sexy ads and racy  scenes from broadcast networks and a direct connection straight to your phone. What about the radio stations and billboards that convey negative messages? Then, there are influences either from naysayers, daily stresses, and the abuser who didn't receive the memo to quit beating....who would believe hope exist?

I'm here to tell you HOPE is every where you look, believe and you will find it.

Peace with Jesus sounds too posh of a life in a noisy world, right? Wrong. He is right here and with us daily.

Truth is, domestic violence can be kicked off your radar- it takes necessary changes on your part in order to make it happen.

As I mentioned, you have a choice in which broadcasts stations you listen and with whom you hang around with, love interest included. Now, if he happens to be a bully, how do you encourage yourself and then, tell him to hit the road and leave you alone?

First, separate yourself from the abuser if possible. It's not unusual for the abuser to stalk the love interest whether she is a girlfriend, wife or no relation (he's just infatuated with you..or someone you know). It is a fact that 19.3 million women and 5.1 million men in the United States are stalked ( That's a big number for residing in the land of the free, home of the brave, right? We have choices every where we go; from ordering lunch to who we love and how we love them.

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trust, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 (NIV)

Another option, filing a protective order- which is a lengthy process, but, in many cases, it works well. Get with your local police for instructions or check with the Family Safety Center.

Perhaps your support network- what does that look like for you? Friends you can trust, home church you can call upon, your circle of well established trustworthy friends who are loyal to you.

For me, it was my supporting networking that saw me through; I give God all the glory.

Remember, "Wisdom will save you from the ways of wicked men, from men whose words are perverse." (Proverbs 2:12)

Friday, July 6, 2018

Patterns and choices

Karlie was dating a hot Italian guy for nine months- things were going great.

As she started spending more time with her friends, Charlie wasn't too thrilled.

She broke up with him and a week later, found a new boyfriend. This guy was a spoonful of sexy with a smile fit for any magazine. She dated "Ty" for seven months before she realized he'd get so mad about what foods she'd order when they went out to eat. Karlie decided she was done with him too.

As Karlie spoke with her girlfriends on an outing, one friend said "look at your patterns, why do you keep dating the 'rough' guys?" Karlie took note and decided she was going to take a break from the dating scene. She had a boyfriend every year since she was 16.  Now that she is 22, she has noticed that none of them have worked out.

* She is now recognizing red flags
* Making better choices
* Has boundaries (tightened)
* Cut off patterned behavior
*Changed her mindset a bit about what's acceptable and what is not.

Certainly, Karlie is very smart for figuring these important pieces now and exercising a timeline-knowing what's good or not.

"Do not conform any longer to the patterns of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approved what God's will is this good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:2 (not sure which version this time, something I saw from my book).

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Friday, June 22, 2018

Her premarital save or spend

Elizabeth walked out the door with keys in her hands to meet her friends.

“Hey, what are you doing and where are going?” Shouts from a familiar voice echo through the hallway from the backroom. “I heard the screen door squeak and wondered what was going on.”
Elizabeth cringed and stopped in her tracks- “ohhhh BOY, guess I’m not going anywhere AGAIN today.”

She was annoyed not getting to see friends as often as she liked. She felt trapped in a messy honeybun because sometimes he was so sweet, yet other times he was like the yeast in the roll; blew up after a certain amount of time and too much was not good for the waistline.

How do you measure a person like that?

Full of jagged patterns with highs and lows and rip -roaring temper like a lion in a jungle.

Elizabeth was trying to see how far she could go each time to see friends and be herself and let her hair hang out.  Each time she would sit down and speak with her boyfriend Steve about the direction they were going, Steve had no idea what she was talking about.

“This girl thinks we’re getting married?” “What is she talking about, I’m not mean to her, I treat her like gold.”

Elizabeth thought it was best for she and Steve to “live” together first before saying “I do” only to test the waters. Try living together, making sure they fit like a nice pair of jeans. The spandex jeans feel the best she thought, so she was going for the stretchable type.

Steve was hardly stretchable, more like a short circuit or a perfectly creased skirt and if one crinkle was out, it would turn u.g.l.y.

Life was good for Steve and Elizabeth for about nine months-he was a stud! Strong, sense of humor, medium height, polished in his craft, a good cook, Steve was a chick magnet.

His mother taught him how to cook so well, then, he pursued culinary school earning his degree and landing the job of his dreams, top chef for the governor.

Steve’s main issue, he didn’t like to be alone, ever. When he was alone, he’d become angry.

Elizabeth and Steve had some work to do if they were going to continue their relationship. Elizabeth already had her mind made up that though he had some great qualities, he wasn’t the right person for her and she needed to pack and go. How was she to break it off and be empowered from this angry boyfriend?

Domestic abuse comes in all shapes and forms and it must be worked out before further pursuing matrimony. It’s better to be safe and know who loves you-

 Abuse it not love- never has been and never will be.


Monday, June 18, 2018

DVI and ROI; what do they have in common?

Hey Everyone,

Here's why I am writing:

To empower women from domestic violence- it's a BIG deal!

Today's subject is ROI (Return On Investment). Who doesn't want more money in their pocket so they can invest, take care of their famiy, buy the things they want, further the kingdom of heaven, and empower women from domestic violence?

We all want more for our buck, that's the bottom line. Here are some benefits all can reap from the   Empowerment Approach if you aren't already aware:

  • Financial benefits in the arrangement of reduced economic costs related to productivity- how many women are more productive when they can think clearly and focus on their jobs? I was this position for over a decade. Even after a domestic abuse, I still went to work and did my job. It was probably more like the "Great Escape." But think how more the client or customer receives in service when the employee has not been affected by domestic abuse. Productivity is at it's best when domestic abuse is not in the picture. Sales for companies go through the roof when employees are not chomped with domestic violence on their minds. Tardiness fades like the sun at the end of the day, and job retention is at an all time bust.
  • Improved Public Safety Imagine a woman traveling through the city transit whether in Tulsa, Oklahoma or New York subways and she sees her perpetrator. What do you think might happen? Maybe nothing since the perpetrator wants to keep a low profile in front of the people...he will be an ordinary Joe and not cause commotion...maybe. What about her? Do you think she might be scared? People on the city transit/subway would probably catch on real quick as to what's going on...maybe.
  • Greater Accessibility to information, resources, knowledge....after all, these are empowering women. They can go from point A to Z in almost a flash (internet, connections, networks).
  • Improved availability to law enforcement and a plethora of other agencies; the powerhouse of more resources.
  • Reduced trauma from all angles; long-term physical, psychological, and emotional trauma. 
  • Safety Planning Measures goes a long way!
She needs increased self-esteem, confidence, and independence. What does that look like for her with supports systems and a grand ability for resilience. She can cope and recover from the violence with the "Empowerment Approach." 

Areas that impact the public financially as mentioned above are hard hitters. $1.8 million in lost productivity and $4.1 billion in medical and mental healthcare costs...that's quite a bit.

Objective is preventing future cases, address emotional needs, break the cycle, build stable lives &. We cannot possibly do it alone- we must have help.


(Social Issue Report: September 2011)

Monday, June 11, 2018

Express intervention billboard media

Express lines and mail fill the people until their almost pale.

One-line shopping, anyone can buy dresses, tires, salad with kale.

"I want it NOW" says one buyer. Does this sound like everyday lifestyles for many who are rushed, don't really know how to budget their time, or set proper boundaries? Maybe, it's simply easy access to products and services without having to wait. What about domestic violence intervention? Bet you can get a whopper of a deal somewhere in the fifty United States, including Women Empowerment Solutions.

Nearly twenty women per minute are physically abused ( by the perpetrator husband or boyfriend. A remedy is right before your beautiful eyes. 1-8 hundred-799-SAFE (7233) is the national hotline- a number that is plastered on billboards everywhere. You can also call 918-407-7106 for prayer, encouragement here at W.E.S.  These are  lines of communication to start you new life, no more battered wife having to deal with continuous strife.

From the north you'll find help. From the south, you find more resilience from domestic violence. Look to the east and west and find God's continued express love which is everywhere you, anywhere you call....even online.

Psalm 46:1 "God is our refuge and strength, an ever -present help in trouble (NIV,

 In Jesus name we "loose you from any kind of abuse." Amen.

Thursday, June 7, 2018

Rules without measure

Rules without measure

The rules are far and wide and the perpetrator must follow them. They are without measure, intact, enforced, omnipresent, empowering and liberating.

The tools for freedom are endless. You may go forth and do the impossible because we serve the God of the universe who makes miracles out of our messes. Domestic violence must bow to the name of Jesus. 

He will help you and hold you up with his righteous right hand no matter what you see in the "natural." 

The perpetrator may think he has one on you, he actually has zero on you and will not get ahead with wreaked-havoc plans.

Your days are without measure, lovely, full of God's benefits (and there are too many to list here), joyful, hopeful, filled with restoration and wholeness blessed from the Lord's holy santuary.

Be blessed and know that you are beautiful and loved without measure. Also, remember:

Psalm 37:23 NLT states "The Lord directs the steps of the godly. He delights in every detail of their lives."

Empowering women from domestic violence.