Characteristics in game pieces 101

Whether at work, in the city shopping, minding your own business running your personal errands, at a sporting event, who "fits" the bill as a domestic violence perpetrator?

Without judging, can you hand-pick who you think may be harmful as your daughter's future husband, the guy for your niece, your best friend, or for yourself (what about your sister!)?

Characters (perpetrators) do not appear as "themselves" in public.

That's why we are examining characteristics today to empower women from domestic violence.

You'd be shocked to know who works with you, lives in your neighborhood, or is a buddy with someone in your sphere of influence..

These jokers don't just come in a deck of cards, they are sprinkled like cupcakes and waiting for the next bite. Someone who is vulnerable, has no social safety net and looks like a ripe tomato (good pick for them). Truck stops (there's the human trafficking bit), massage parlors, clubs, convenient stores, are just a few places assaults take place and perpetrators are brought home with meek, mild, and sweet women (domestic violence cases). There are plenty other places where the perpetrators strike as well (grocery stores, workplace, gym, etc).

Sometimes, beneath the designer jeans, the sweet smelling cologne, hot-shot shoes, or even the nice leather jacket, and shiny sports car he fits the "image" of what a "good" guy should look like to a particular person (perception).

Who doesn't want a guy that smells good, attractive, fit, wears nice clothes, drives a posh car, and dancing is certainly a plus (oh, watch those moves), but the inner areas are like love, respect, and honor are most wished for and certainly appreciated.

Deep down, there's more to these stories than this game of manipulation and intimidation of character, it's the lives of women which shall not be taken for granted, but empowered from domestic violence.

Most guys will keep their cool for a bit, but, the signs are all there, and you must be aware to catch this naughty fish straight with hook, line, and sinker! Have your "spiritual" eyes open and "spiritual" ears on alert.

The abuser works HIS bait with charm, so be discerning of this particular characteristic. There are some guys who are charming and their charm is real and fruitful. For the males which have a dot-to-dot history and cannot "connect" the lines of communication too well, but only with abuse, come with accessories called, Red Flags.

They wave their dominance like a flag with overbearing ways, not giving one a chance to speak up, listening to their partners ideas of what they like or do not like (it's empowering to know, women to have a voice and shall use it).

The perpetrator preys on sweet and innocent women with compassion.

Definitely, watch for word usage and he speaks-what's the tone?

The manipulation master will do whatever it takes to get what he wants. You can diffuse the situation with good words and "coding" for your children if the situation gets to hairy, but for sure, call 911 when applicable. Manipulation is not from the Kingdom of God, so there's a big red flag as well.

Also, it's important to do a "spiritual check" and learn about where this person comes from (are they from good stock?).

What's his family like?

 What's the history there?

 Does he or she have a good relationship with their earthly father (big red flag)?

 What are the conversations happening at dinners and gatherings? Be alert here and watchful, know that peace is yours and don't let the abuser take it from you. If he has, take it back.

Remember, you have the power and authority within you of the kingdom of heaven. Command the angels to put a hedge of protection around you and that no weapon is formed against you in Jesus' mighty name.

Women Empowerment Solutions (W.E.S.) is here to empower you with growth, potential, education, and freedom from domestic violence. We stand firm on the Word of God which is not moved. He is the alpha and omega (first and last), so ladies, you WIN because God has the last Word.

W.E.S. leaves you with "Seek peace, and pursue it." (Ps. 34:14)

If you have any comments you would like to leave, Women Empowerment Solutions would like to hear from you. Thank you for reading my blog and please continue to share with others. Blessings.

*Ripe tomato is not meant to be offensive to anyone (just a very good pick for the perpetrator)