Outstanding financials deliver equal numbers

Empowering women from domestic violence has various parts.

Each woman has her own unique circumstance, and some are entirely different.

But, when it comes to finances, there is always an "outstanding" in that story.

I was reading this is in a book "What is Mine Is Mine, and What IS Yours Is Mine by Patricia

Evans in the Verbally Abused Relationship (pg. 182, para 5). Goes like this: "Some of the worst

Verbal abusers are those who control joint income. In community property states, all income earned

during- the- course of the marriage belongs to both equally (something about equally the perpetrator

doesn't understand) (Inheritance is excepted. However, if the inheritance is commingled, it is shared

in most cases.) You should always check with your own attorney or CPA regarding finances. Not

knowing if you have any joint funds, or what your debts are, take away your autonomy and your

freedom. It is a common horror in a country that fights for freedom."

We know in Genesis 2:22 it states "and the rib, which the Lord God had taken from man, made he a

woman, and brought her unto the man."

Then what's the problem with the perpetrator "thinking" the way he does, that he must be in control

(keyword) of all the finances?

Whether there is an issue of who spends more money and who is more conservative with finances

making sure bills are paid is a situation with couples, a domestic problem or not.

But we know women are equal, not meaning they are physical strength, but similar in value, worth,

and there is no reason to penny-pinch on one another; meaning not taking all the funds from one

another.

If the woman made money, she keeps it. If the guy made all the money, then all go to court to see

who holds what- more than likely the guy does- because he worked for it. But guess what, she did

too work for it- enduring all abuse that she didn't want to put up with in the first place.

This is when you hold your head up, and you stop fighting over money. You might not like it, and

maybe you're are not fighting over money, but just to get away from him as far as possible (that's

what I did). Another continent couldn't be far away enough for me from the perpetrator. Just be sure

to think wisely and what is in your best interest. What is your motivation and what gives you peace?

If you can answer those questions, then you have what you are looking for.

Make sure you have everything in writing (court docs)and make sure you can make money on your

own, this will liberate you significantly.

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