A chocolate for every emotion

We have all heard the saying from Forrest Gump, "life is like a box of chocolates." True, but

emotions are like a box of chocolates too, there's one for every emotion.

Some women are charmed by the perpetrator on Valentines Day with the biggest box of chocolate,

flowers usually a card, a nice dinner, and maybe something else- could be jewelry, perfume, or some

hot sex for the night.

While none of those are wrong, it's not necessarily from the right emotion or right process the

perpetrator engages from. A plethora of emotions may arise a few minutes or hours after the gifting:

 happiness, sadness, anger, or fear to name a few.

Be familiar with rights things and red flags and truly, know what love is.

II Corinthians 13:4-8 NIV tells us "love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it

 is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no

record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always

trust, always hopes always perseveres."

Let's go a little deeper here. Patience does not mean waiting for the perpetrator to change his ways

after he has beaten you up 5 times or 20 times- after the first time, that's enough. Love is kind,

always. This does not convey a doormat for his bullying ways. With the domineering type, you feel

like your losing your way, been there, done that. However, you can still move forward and allow the

legal process to capture his attention. Eventually, it will.

Envy is really jealousy that he feels, isn't it? So, he is jealous because you are so ______(you fill in

the blank; pretty, smart, spunky, chick magnet, money-maker, strong-willed, etc.) what? This negative

 spirit doesn't give him the right to hurt you or cross you.

What about boasting? Is he excessively proud of himself of all his achievements and gloats

endlessly? It's enough to make you want to puke, I know. Achievements from work-drive results,

possessions, and abilities are lovely, to a point. When you get to this point, look for a humbling guy,

 that's not all wrapped up in himself, but is genuinely a sweetheart (you ask, how do you find one of

those- no, not one in a sweetheart candy).

How about one who is honoring verses dishonoring? Does he do things that intentionally hurt you

and doesn't care that either his words, actions, or gestures are upsetting and dishonoring to you?

Though I appreciate judges and graduates hard work, you do not need to be either one to claim honor

and respect.

Try to remember, perpetrators are self-absorbed in themselves, and yes, they have quite a few issues.

One thing you can do for them is to pray. You ask, why would I want to pray for someone who hurt

me. Because they need it and it's healing for you (I'm speaking from experience, so I know). I didn't

say you have to have a connection with them, although, if you have children with the perpetrator,

you have a relationship link anyway. But you can move past that kind of mindset, just pray for them

 that they are delivered from evil and honestly, pray for their salvation because God will do His

wondrous works, He always does.  I promise you, God will never ever let you down. He has done

remarkable wonders for me, He can do the same for you.

Remember, not all guys have ill motives. It may look like it to you for a while, but you will have a

 change of heart one day. That would be like saying all women are bad, and as we know, that is not

true. There is more good than evil, you'll see through the wrapper soon.


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