Getting passed the domineering personalities. What does it truly take?

 

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I was recently watching the Olympics when the word "dominate" came through the broadcast and

 perked my attention, and this blog post was born helping you get passed those personalities which

is part of your tomorrow.

For those overcoming domestic abuse or who have already overcome it, domineering personalities

are not welcoming, they overlap boundaries, and you squirm "inside" wondering what to do with 

the person in front of you, yikes!

Here's a visual.....(which I am well known for)

 You have a fragile piece of glassware. The glass is not thick, but very thin,

you need to be extra careful with washing it or transporting it from one location to another. Say you 

order this item, and it is shipped, then "tossed" across your driveway even when the box is clearly 

stamped "fragile." You have to wonder, did this glassware make it through the tossing across the

 driveway? 

By the time you picked it up, you hear a "rattle.". There are dents all around it.

Reminds me of a time I was shipping an item overseas years ago. I was new to mailing packages, 

especially at a long distance. It was not placed in a box. You can imagine how this fragile item 

"landed," not in one piece.

The point is the personality clash between the person who has overcome or is overcoming

 domestic abuse is on alert and does not truly mesh with dominate people, yet. The domineering 

characteristics are unruly and wishy-washy with manipulation, prideful ways, control, narcissistic ways

 (they cannot stand correction), twist your words around.

 

Ways of getting passed the domineering types by fifth-generation Pastor, Bill Johnson:

1. "Choose peace over chaos.

2. Keep your peace in the chaos.

3. Wisdom over argument, you walk in your God-given authority. 

4. Respond from your spirit instead of reacting from emotion.

5. Don't let manipulation take your peace."

You can find his eye-opening teachings here.

A story of discovery

Talking with a friend years ago who is a Christian, I noticed her personality as domineering, but in very

 different kind of way. 

Though she would take the lead in various activities, conversations, very confident person, she was very

 business savvy as well, the difference is she is attentive to the "spirit" of God whereas a non-Christian

domineering individual is not attentive to the spirit, therefore not paying attention to the fruits of the

 spirit or what words they speak.

I asked her a few questions about confidence and taking the lead in conversations, bossing people

 around, but she mentioned she was always like that. The best part is, she is a very good listener and

 encouraging to others, which is not usually the case for domineering (narcissism-type person, no-no!).

I found our conversation years ago fascinating and eye-opening.

I had wondered how I could like a domineering person as herself, but there was a significant difference

from a bullying-type of person who is manipulative and someone you do not want to rub elbows with.

 

So, it a nutshell, notice who you are speaking with. Is the domineering person too much for you with 

their personality traits? If so, move along until you are ready to handle that personality....and that may

be a while. If you work with this type of person, there's a book on Working with Jerks by Kim Lloyd

 that can offer you some additional tips. I read this years ago, may be of help to you.

Now you have more valuable resources to work with should you need them; my bet is you will!

Empowering You. Empowerment against domestic abuse, we just will not tolerate it.

Dig your heels in, see what scripture says. Scriptures to read on this are Matthew 20:25-28 (NIV), 1

 Peter 5:3 (NIV), Proverbs 16:32 (ESV), Timothy 2:24 (NIV). Plenty to get you started, otherwise

 you can check for me, there are plenty.

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