When the Numbers Don't Match and The Front Door is Wide Open
Shannon had a hunch to stop at the ATM a few miles from her home.
She quickly found out the funds were depleted from her accounts.
Wondering what happened, she called her spouse, Frank.
Frank's phone went to a fast busy when she tried to reach him.
"What on earth is going on?" Shannon spoke out loud. Joshia, her 4-year-old son, heard her and said,
"Mommy, what's the matter?" She knew had some "explaining" to do, and to put a cap on it where
needed. She knew it was a very natural response. You can't put a cap on a natural response.
She got home and saw the front door wide open. A phone call was made to the police as she suspected foul play.
There was domestic violence happening, however, not with her and her spouse, but a neighbor. Frank was only trying to help, but it escalated the situation.
How do Christian's help neighbors, co-workers, or anyone else facing the ugly monsters of domestic violence?
They come in quadruples! Do you know what they are? Of course, if you saw someone pulling hair, kicking, biting, you would know if that were physical. The naked eye can easily see the trouble.
What about emotional abuse? Could you see that? Sure, you can:
Gaslighting is one. Gaslighting is NOT lighting the stove or pilot light. Some have asked. A better example is when your loved one hurts, controls, or does something abuse to you. For example, they lock you in the closet and say, "you know I love you, this is for your own good." Eh, not so much!
Isolation is another. It's good to have time alone, however, not hours and hours and hours. You need family, friends, and support in various areas of your life. Spending life alone is not spending life at all.
Insulting language. It's good to have nice conversation where your loved one is bringing you up with kind and gentle words. Encouragement goes a long way, longer than the state of Texas, and it, as you know, is huge! Insulting language doesn't feel good on your body, your mind, your day, not anywhere does it belong.
Yelling. How about lowering the voice a few notches from the one who is loudly speaking jibberish (abusive, harmful content). If you are at a football game cheering the game on, that's fine. Even a concert enjoying the good tunes, have at it. Yelling to harm someone does not work. Get rid of it quickly. Leave to the other room.
Shifting the blame will make you throw up. This is a manipulation tactic. Throw it out the window because it doesn't work as you are a child of God. Example: "I wouldn't have ___if you wouldn't have pressured me." Time to tell blame shifting to get lost Bucko.
Acting extremely jealous- text, phone calls, irrational and irate behavior, are all jealousy and have no business in the kingdom of heaven. Tell it to hit the road and leave you alone. An example maybe you are in a competition and your guy (boyfriend, husband) does not like it because he can't stand other people giving you so much attention and its detracting attention from him. Big red flag sister.
Outbursts of unpredictable anger- Alright, you are standing in line at a department store. All you want is the super cute hot pink t-shirt for twelve bucks. Your guy isn't chickee with it, so he goes ape on you. In the middle of the line, there are at least 10 people standing behind you despite all the self-check-out stands. His voice rises and says unkind words not necessary. You're like, "gee, what did I do?" Absolutely nothing, he just doesn't have a grip- no self-discipline.
Make sure as you have read all these signs and examples, you go about your day with your full armor of God (Ephesians 6:12-24). Stand your grand and protect yourself. What if he is having one of "those days?" Get out of his way as soon as you can. Make "the choice" to get help and scat!
Next, there's economic abuses and psychological. After working in the field of empowering women a while now, I've seen it all, especially these last two.
Economic abuse strikes on the finances as a bulldozer.
Imagine all those diapers you need to purchase for your kiddo, or even the purses you have been eyeing for a time and you have no access to the funds even though you have worked for it, the availability is not at hand. Why? Economic abuse. This is only one small example. So many females are affected by it.
Psychological abuse is belittling. It pairs with emotional and does look like a pear because it's fat in society. Remember, this scripture to help cancel said abuse, II Corinthians 10:3-6, KJV. "For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: (For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strong holds;) Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalts itself against the knowledge of God and bringing into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.
This is not an exhaustive list. You can rise above them all. I've given you scriptures which acts as your sword of the spirit, use them. Speak the words out and familiarize yourselves with them.
The church is here for you. Whether Baptist, Catholics, Charismatics, Nazarene, you name it, if a person you trust believes in Jesus, the church will listen, provide, and guide you, get you the help you need by calling authorities, perhaps a shelter, or possibly help you move into a whole new location, you never know what GREAT POSSIBILITIES will come about.
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Written By: Eileen Seefluth, Christian Creative Copywriter,
www.EileenSeefluth.com
& President, Women Empowerment Solutions
www.womenempowermentsolutions.org
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