13 Guidelines to empower women with children from abuse

Every day, week, month, and year, we know more women become more courageous about the way

they live their lives.

 It's a fact; otherwise, there wouldn't be so much fuss about women trying to leave an

abusive relationship. They muster up enough courage and move forward, or they shrink back,

sometimes both. It is HARD (but doesn't have to be)!!

One of the big deals is having courage, especially while raising your children, no matter what age.

The kids are watching. They listen to the words their parents are speaking, actions, they are honestly

a reflection of their parents (good or bad).

Raising kids from a domestic violence marriage or non-marriage is truly difficult. The empowering

part, we can do something about it.

I was recently reading this book, Raising Champion Children for God, the author, Billy Joe

Daugherty. It has some mighty worthy and valuable material in it that I would like to share with you.

First, in chapter 10, former pastor Billy Joe Daugherty discusses thirteen guidelines for parenting:


Set an example- We all know to be on our best behavior, but it's hard to be like that 24/7, just being

real here. But, for the sake of our children, it's a must. You want your children to have something to

follow in life. If you set rules and boundaries, you must go by them too- don't break your own rules

and regulations and expect your kids to obey if you will not.


Boundaries with Love- Matthew 5:17- Remember, God says he didn't come to do away with the law,

but to fulfill. The same thing with boundaries, make them, but don't put them to the side. This can be

a tough one, too, but practice makes perfect.


Share God's Word with your children. Whatever you plant with the children early on, it'll stay with

your children forever…yes, even when they become adults. Check Deuteronomy 6:5-9.

Listen- Listen to your kids. Sometimes easier said than done. James 1:9 have some references

material here.


Quality Time- You cannot get time back. If you have a few extra minutes (or even if you do not),

spend the time with your children and they will remember it for life. Matthew 9:14 - more reference

for this.


Be quick to Ask Forgiveness- Sometimes when we are under pressure trying to make decisions that

need such clear focus, we get snappy, then the children become snappy, too. It's good to keep the

tone under control, but if it grows out of whack, forgiving is something outstanding to remember and

do.


Laughter- Laugh it up as much as possible.


Fairness- Treat equally. Since all kiddos are a bit different, be fair- I know you already know this.

Correction in Love- Discipline, the best thing for a kid; the process of revision will produce Godly

fruit- amen.


Trust God-Let Go- Everything will work out no matter what. Just know that God has your situation

with your children in the palm of His hands. Worrying about stuff is not going to help anybody or

anything. Years ago, I was all worried about all my children in the process of leaving an abusive

relationship- then, everything was a mess. Didn't really have the right direction with anything, but as

soon as I let God take over, things started to melt and were easier.



Strike When the Iron Is Hot- "All about timings," says Billy Joel.


Make Home a Refuge- Home a haven. A place to hang your hat and let it all hang out. Remember,

God formed the HOME before government, school, or the church.

With all these guidelines, think now on areas which need improvement, if any (there's always room):
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Remember," he has blessed your children within you " Psalm 147:13.

Oh, one last one, God-confidence. Your confidence comes from the Lord,  draw on that- just ask.


Some that I would add are values and skills. Having awesome character traits will help them in life.

Not only that, do a fact-check for fruits of the spirit; honesty, integrity, ethics, etc.

Hope this empowers you with your children with great rewards for all of you.

Women Empowerment Solutions-freedom from domestic violence

* Also, make sure you have a trusting relationship with your children. It may be difficult when the child flops back and forth form home to home and one of the homes is with the abuser. You can still make this work. Have faith and be courageous. You are totally surrounded by assistance!