Which way is the right way?

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Should You Stay or Should You Go?

Sounds like the beginning of a Mick Jagger song.

The question is valid. It's your home. Yet, you have not felt safe for a while. Good for you for being

 honest with yourself, truly important but not always done.

You have decisions to make. They are not easy choices as they impact the rest of your life, and any

 children who are involved as well. Another note, think about why you are making the decisions you are

 making. Are they based off fear? If they are, give yourself 24-48 hours to pray with thanksgiving and

 choose wisely.

There is an expanded view to think about here. All the questions that arise. It's like a bundle in the

 rubber band, but there's too much to sort out, with limited time, and all who are involved.

When you start, you ask yourself questions. Where are you going to go? 

Questions to ask yourself:

• Where will you be safe? We have suggestions on our resources page for Women Empowerment Solutions. Also, Psalm 91 is good to prayer out loud making your confession and declaration. This does work especially when you believe.
• Do you need medical attention? If so, where can you get checked?
•  Do you have a health professional who can examine you? Psalm 107:20, the Lord sent for His Word and heals you. His Word is truth, active, and alive, pull of power. If you are in the Owasso area, I would suggest the Arubah clinic in Collinsville, they could possibly help you- check with them for their requirements.
• Where is your boyfriend, husband, former boyfriend, former spouse? Do you know?  In this case, we speak a peace and a calm over you in the name of Jesus, amen. Knowledge is information as you know.
• Do you have transportation? If no, this can be problematic; however, you can overcome this. You'll need to be creative, resourceful, and trusting which is often difficult with what you have faced or are now facing.
• Do you need a restraining order/protective order? Many times, the answer is yes, especially with children involved. Go to the Family Safety Center for this or contact the police. Special protection will calm your nerves, give you peace where you need it so as to proceed in the coming days.
• Are you pregnant? If so, there's empowerment in this area too. Women Empowerment Solutions dot com shares helpful information in your process moving forward. Jeremiah 29:11 is a good reference scripture as well as Psalm 139:14.

It's a good idea to journal what's going on to cite specific days and times and with whom you have spoken with. This record will empower you with dates, times, events you may not otherwise remember unless you record them in your journal. You can also use "code" language in case someone nosey tries to peek in your book. With your codes, they will not know what you have recorded because the codes are personal to you.

Back to the home question. Do you need to leave? You should not have to, but if the abuser is not willing to leave, that's when law enforcement gets involved because it's his home as well. 

On a personal note, when I left over 20 years ago, I left. The reason: I was done. For a percentage of ladies, it's easier just to "leave" material items behind even though they matter so much to you at that time. Letting go is very freeing.

 I did recover about 80 boxes of the items in the middle of winter spread throughout the driveway one sub-zero weather day. Truly, at one point, you say, "who cares!"

 You could be one who cares for your items and fights tooth and nail for all your "stuff," and if that is you, be careful. Those are high stakes for material items. Law enforcement and attorneys are there to empower you and guide you through the process, so there's a sense of relief right there! You know all is well when you can trust the people whom you are working with.

Make sure you go by your gut. Your inner self will never guide you wrong.

We are glad you stopped by. We don't want to overload you with too much, but we are excited you are well on your well taking baby steps forward.

Women Empowerment Solutions, Inc.

Empowering Women against Domestic Abuse