What to look for in the church, how to move forward from domestic abuse

 

The gift of forgiving isn't man-pleasing, it is releasing.

The gift of letting go tells your worries- no, no!

The chimps, chomps, stomps

Are not as crops

But as wheat and tares.

The gift of crowding them out

Starts in Genesis

They are not run on sentences

More, so, the truth and light

Your soul will ignite

Your spirit will delight.

For the gift of forgiving

Releases all attachments 

From entrapments 

By by to all burden bears

And those who are carriers.

We start off with poetry today and move to prose talking about the church because that's what needs to be discussed.

The church should be a place where you can put all your troubles on the altar, if not there, where?

Trust is a big part of life. What you trust, who you trust, even trusting yourself! Yes, that is a thing too.

When emotions come up whether you are feeling sad, lonely, discouragement, resent, disappointed, or other emotions, the foot of the cross, the church altar is where you cast it off (Psalm 37 - I encourage to read the whole thing).

Too many people have been hurt in this area though at the wrong church. How do you know it's the wrong church???? Are they speaking whole scriptures or half? Do you feel free or subdued? The inside of you (yes, your gut) will tell you precisely.

 Evaluate where they (church leaders) have unfortunately severed your trusts, discounted what you've spoke to the leadership, or kept discussions on the hush-hush side of the wall not releasing accurate information or honoring what's been said, confessed, and brought to the forefront. What do you do with it?

Women who have been violated by domestic abuse, religious abuse, verbal abuse, I mean the list goes on.

Once you speak your peace to the leadership and they do nothing about what you tell me, further investigation is needed. I will say, there is no perfect church, it even states so in scripture.

Know that allegations must be proved. Yes, they have to be proved. Then, you have he said, she said. Not very nice nor is it adult like, but it does happen unfortunately, and not only in churches, other places as well.

Now, the church is not just in the brick and mortar building, it's outside the 4 walls as well.  People have church service in parks with a tent, in someone's home, in the cafe, in a parking lot, and the list goes on.

I encourage you to find a church who goes by the Word of God and check what is being taught. If there are half scriptures, that's a no go. Whole scriptures are accepted. You have to know the Word of God. If you do not, then, it's good to start somewhere.

 When I say know it, you need to know it. Read it, meditate on it, and chew on it, think on it. You know what is the Word of God then. Know it like you know your beautiful hair. Which way works best with your hair? You know your hair better than anyone else. What makes your hair do what it does? What calls your hair to life in a bouncy and colorful way?

Speaking of bouncy way, I can tell when people have the joy of the Lord all over them, can't you?  They have a bounce in their step. Nothing bothers them, they just have pep in their step. You can bet the Holy Spirit is guiding them- we all need Him! They know who they are and they know whose they are. They identify with Christ and all that He has for them.

So, in speaking this, I have noticed and learned people who have estrangements from their father's tend to stay away from church, as well, those who do not know their father's. It is very sad.

I am grateful I grew up with my father. Though he wasn't in church much, only a handful of times while I was growing up, I have lots of great memories with my dad. Not everyone has great memories with their dad, either that, or no memories with them. This is a tough spot to be in, But, I can tell you forgiveness makes all the difference.

Yes, I have had to forgive people in my life too, I am sure everyone has. It's the way such as life because everyone does not agree with everyone unfortunately.

Anyway, the point is if you have a gap between you and your dad, chances are you have a gap between you and father God. How could you trust much of anyone?

Trust is very important. If you have nobody to trust, that would be a deep wound. Have you ever seen those big deep swimming pools? You're like, how did they make them so deep? And, if they have no water in them, oh my goodness! Well, you have to have water, the springs of living water in you so you can make forward in life. Emptiness will not move you forward. The closed gap, in other words, relationship with God will get you everywhere.

If you are struggling with trust though, He can help you with that, just ask Him. And, if you are not ready to walk into a church because of church hurt or severed trust, it's understandable! You need time to mend your wounds. But, it's how you mend your words.

I know, no religious stuff, yuck! Nobody wants religious stuff. They want to the truth, the way, the life, and Jesus is the truth, the way, and the life. 

John 10:10

Psalm 91

Philippians 4:4-8

Romans 8

Acts 2

Ephesians 3:20

As you progress forward, I would encourage you to read these scriptures out loud a few times a day. Let your ears and body hear these words. Continue for 90 days, yes, 90 days. I know you will have a shift change from doing speaking these out loud.

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