Dynamics in a donut, which road do you pick?

 

Dynamics and Diligence

Communication and active listening vs. passive listening, how do you see yourself? How are you communicating with your friends and family? Meaning the family might be a "whole" unit or be full of "steps." If a whole group, that's great, no divorce is involved. If steps play a role, that's fine, too, fruit takes more work for the dynamics to flow. Case in point:

Freddy and Virginia work tirelessly throughout the week on their jobs. When the couple returns home, they are tired, and chores are still waiting for them.

Cook the dinner, do the laundry, buy the groceries, tidy the place up, to name a few. By the time the couple starts to work on their evening feast, the clock ticks to 7p.m. Wow, who wants to cook at 7p.m.? Their daughter Melissa likes to eat a little early. 

Adam, her adopted brother, likes to eat earlier, too.

Since Freddy and Virginia found out, they couldn't have any more children after their daughter. Freddy thinks Virginia "winked" out on him because of public displays of kindness to the opposite sex, so he lashes out to Virginia in jealousy and distrust. 

Freddy has murmured vulgar words to Virginia, upsetting her and the children.

Melissa and Adam go to church with a neighbor and are picked up by the church bus. They enjoy learning the bible stories and know that God has great plans for them because the Bible says so; it's God's Word.

Virginia's communication with Freddy began to sour after displeasing words and judgments he made, making life a bit uncomfortable for her.

Their dynamics are not so different from others. A couple with a child and another adopted. The diligence we see here is not only from the mother caring for her children but Melissa and Adam's desire to attend church, so they go.

Adam asks questions; he is a curious little guy. When he asks Freddy about different scopes of life and their family setting, Freddy is cranky.

Empowerment begins with a strong foundation for you and your children as well as your spouse. Not every household has a spouse, quite a few do not. But dynamics are essential and vital to your home. Respect is crucial for each family member. We see Freddy needs to work on his communication skills with Virginia and Adam.

Every person deserves honor and trust, too. Some people sever trust and from slack character traits. For instance, if Freddy said he would spend time with Adam showing him how to build some cool figurines from legos, he needs to do that. Words and actions must match for any dynamics.

 For Virginia, she would probably like to know where Freddy's insecurity came from as she is friendly with all outsiders, especially the opposite sex. Maybe she just needs attention. Whatever the case, fruits of the spirit are always beautiful reminders for all. Empowerment begins with you. You hold the key. 

As for this family, it's hopeful they will grow in honesty for each other. Build trust and be diligent with their purpose for loving one another. 

Remember, trust is the key for all relationships- husband and wife, mother and daughter, son and mom or dad, work relations, friendships, etc. If trust is not apparent, love becomes a question. Trust can be repaired through diligence, and "proof" is required for a length of time.

Diligence is essential as well in anything you do. Be sure to communicate with God and ask Him to lead and guide you. He wants you to spend time with him- being diligent about it makes God happy (and you as well).

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